After Some Meditation

[madshutterbug]

Pinched from tzel a friend of marjai and madpuppy who pinched it from misa1.

 It makes an interesting point," said Telf.

I replied,  "I know in person 50% of my current Friends list. But is it a problem?"

This is the problem with LiveJournal: We all think we are so close, but we know nothing about each other. I want you to ask me something you think you should know about me. Something that should be obvious, but you have no idea about. Then, post this in your LiveJournal and find out what people don't know about you.

Comments

[kanaetkassad.livejournal.com]

This is really weird... an icebreaker. Hmmm you wrote: "I am a Registered Nurse. I'm also male, and I put those two points down in a specific order: Nurse. Male.

Sure I've been male longer than I've been a nurse. I've also been a photographer longer; neither of those are the point. The point is, on more than one occasion I've made a professional judgement that this particular person, this particular victim of sexual violence, needs someone of their own gender to care for them just right now. This other person, though, is benefitting from the fact that someone who is the same sex, the same gender as their attacker is providing the care they need. That not all people of that gender are violent, sick individuals interested in violating their souls.

There's a growing body of evidence in our professional literature that what you've done here is really one of the best things you can do. You've put the word out, "You're not alone. It's not your fault. I know, I've been there." The details will matter less to other victims than the knowledge that there is an equilibrium to be attained.

It may not seem like much.

I've learned over 30 some years in health care, we do this one person at a time. No more."

and I wanted to say I respect your judgement a lot. It is the reason I see women practitioners to do my yearly pap, why I prefer to see women if I need counseling as well(because my first pap was done by a middle aged male at blushing 20). I can't explain it but it's comforting. Women have always validated my medical concerns whether they be emotional or not. Men, however, in my medical experiences, are more likely to see me as irrational at the most vulnerable times in my life if they're strangers and I haven't seen them under "healthy conditions" before... this includes both therapists and doctors. I have had enough wrong with me to have seen doctors for months to figure things out so I do know things get resolved in time because I am persistent. I think perhaps at the most vulnerable times with women, it just gets resolved faster becasue they heal more than one part at a time if that makes sense.