I've always viewed Boyz as friends. Comes of being the only girl in my extended family and living in a neighborhood that was short on girls. My 2nd-best friend in grade school was a boy, which totally confused my mother. I always viewed my crushes as unrealistic exercises that had almost nothing to do with my real relationships.
Although once in a while I'd ask out someone I had a crush on, or someone on whom I had a crush would turn out to have one on me, and then all kinds of mayhem would ensue until the crushy part of things died down and we could get on to figuring out what kind of relationship we wanted to have.
It's not that I don't like mind-blanking passion...but in the long term, I don't like walking around with a blank mind, and I find friendships more satisfying in the long run...possibly because my idea of friendship (under the right circumstances, in the right time, with the right agreements,with the right set of attachments/lack of same etc. etc.) does not preclude occasional mind-blowing passion.
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I've always viewed Boyz as friends. Comes of being the only girl in my extended family and living in a neighborhood that was short on girls. My 2nd-best friend in grade school was a boy, which totally confused my mother. I always viewed my crushes as unrealistic exercises that had almost nothing to do with my real relationships.
Although once in a while I'd ask out someone I had a crush on, or someone on whom I had a crush would turn out to have one on me, and then all kinds of mayhem would ensue until the crushy part of things died down and we could get on to figuring out what kind of relationship we wanted to have.
It's not that I don't like mind-blanking passion...but in the long term, I don't like walking around with a blank mind, and I find friendships more satisfying in the long run...possibly because my idea of friendship (under the right circumstances, in the right time, with the right agreements,with the right set of attachments/lack of same etc. etc.) does not preclude occasional mind-blowing passion.